When a man does a thing that's good, consistently, that he learned from his fathers, who learned it from his father, and so on; when that thing is something men discuss and celebrate; when it's reinforced by stories we tell of especially good examples; when we intentionally choose it as a code for ourselves and deliberately instill it in our children or seek friends who exemplify it, that thing is manhood. It's manhood not 'as opposed to womanhood' but manhood as opposed to something less than being a man.
This is my father in 1968. He taught me to:
Follow the Law
Be on time
...and fly right.
Rules to live by.
Happy Fathers Day, Dad.
And thank you. pic.twitter.com/lTY0TeZGub
— Billy Ray (@BillyRay5229) June 16, 2019
For most of us, traditionally, if we sat down, bought another man a beer, and talked about what those things are, we'd learn quickly (if we didn't know already) that we share many of them. We weren't surprised when other men thought highly of honesty, duty, self-reliance, exchanging value for value, and commitment to one’s word.
My father, Chris Cornell, taught me to help those that are less fortunate and to speak for those who do not have a voice. For #WorldRefugeeDay I want to share this song we recorded together in honor of all he believed in... https://t.co/4Zr2Rha9QB #NothingCompares2U pic.twitter.com/g9CyLAZvlW
— Chris Cornell (@chriscornell) June 20, 2018
This was once so common that we expected it in other men and were surprised and bewildered if there was NO shared sense of manhood. In fact, we relied on it as the basis for a community of peers, of aspiration, and our sense of self among potential equals. The point of Manhearted™ is to reignite that conversation.